1. Your friends make the same plans to party the night away at a dance club every weekend. You find it boring and also don’t appreciate the smoky atmosphere and sleazy men. Once in a while it would be nice just to go for a nice dinner or a movie. Do you

a. Voice your opinion and suggest other plans to your friends?
b. Make up an excuse why you can’t go to the club?
c. Just grin and bear it (You don’t want to antagonize your friends).

2. Your boyfriend loves Mexican food but you hate it. Do you

a. Bring home pizza “for a change”?
b. Cook a separate Mexican meal for him, while you nibble on your carrot sticks?
c. Meet him at El Pollo Loco?

3. Your best friend asks you if she can pull off that micro mini. You think she looks like a slut. Do you say

a. Hon, wouldn’t it be better to leave something to the imagination?
b. Hmmmm… It’s very nice, but you also look very nice when you wear…
c. Oh, it looks fabulous!

4. You’ve settled in comfortably in your pajamas and fluffy bunny slippers in front of your favorite old movie, with a bag of popcorn by your side. Suddenly, your friends call you because they need a ride. Do you

a. Tell them to get a cab!
b. Tell them you will give them your car keys for the evening but they have to manage to get to your house first.
c. Jump into the car without bothering to change.

5. You bought a brand new CD you’ve been dying for. The wrapper is not off yet when your cousin asks you if she can borrow it (She has a long road trip ahead of her). Do you say

a. Don’t you have a radio in your car?
b. Okay but please be careful with it!
c. Consider this a gift from me to you.

Give yourself: 1 pt for every a answer
2 pts for every b answer
3 pts for every c answer

Results:

0-5: Well you certainly don’t mince words! It is great that you are so assertive and you don’t let others walk all over you however always putting yourself first is not always appropriate. The ability to bend a little and compromise will ensure a healthier relationship for you and your friends.

5-10: You are a great giver, which is a commendable quality, however please take time to analyze whether you are receiving tit for tat. Although true friends don’t keep score, it is important to have a balanced relationship too, just to make sure you are not taken disadvantage of, and that your kindness is not mistaken for weakness.

10-15: When you were standing in line for God to create you, he ran out of spine and put jelly into you instead. It’s one thing to be nice and friendly but methinks you more often than not say “yes” when you mean “no.” Please have some respect for yourself and draw boundaries: You are entitled to your feelings, your own likes and dislikes. It is high time others took notice.