Hooshang writes:

Dear Sex Sultan, I have been thinking of getting my girlfriend some sex toys to liven things up in the bedroom. But I am afraid of her reaction. I don’t want to appear lewd or vulgar. After all, we have only been dating for 3 months. What do you suggest I get her?

Sex Sultan writes:

How would you know what’s too much unless you ask? Just because your girlfriend does not bring sex toys in the bedroom, doesn’t mean she hasn’t enjoyed them in the past. My best suggestion is to take her to a sex shop so you can browse the aisles together and figure out what suits the both of you best. Not only will your shopping be more productive, but I am sure just the fact that you two lovebirds are surrounded by all this erotica will be a form of foreplay in itself.

If you’re too chicken to do that, here are some popular sex toys that should ease you two into the idea, without appearing too “lewd or vulgar” whatever that means:

Massage oil. Massages are high on the ladder in the world of sexiness. They are intimate and they give you the opportunity to touch the object of your desire in a sensual manner that pleases both yourself and her. Throw in some scented oils and feel the temperature rise. Make sure they are non-greasy and aromatic. Don’ t forget candles and music for the background.

Lingerie. Ah yes, the oldest trick in the book. If done correctly, this gift can do wonders for both the giver and the receiver. Surprise your girlfriend with an outfit that you picked out for her, girls just love gifts and you will thus already have gotten her on her good side. Start off with some lace and satin from Victoria’s Secret and gage your girlfriend’s reaction. Don’t be selfish. Pick something that is exciting visually for you but that won’t be extremely uncomfortable for her. (No suffocating corsets or dental floss panties please). Stay clear of something too elaborate as it may prove difficult to remove. Gradually, as you become more confident, you can go for more titillating pieces such as edible bras, vibrating panties and maybe even leather and chains (why not?)

Blindfold. The cheapest way to add more excitement in your sex life. You can blindfold your girlfriend with a silk scarf and let her wait in anticipation of what your next erotic move will be. While she is at your mercy, caress her with a soft feather until she begs you to stop, or run an ice cube along her skin, especially if it is a particularly hot day. Lightly brush her body (starting with her lips) with strawberries dipped in chocolate, or pour some champagne on her stomach, then proceed to lick her clean. Tip: Make sure that there is TRUST between you and that she AGREES to this idea before putting on the blindfold. Don’t pull a Kato on her Inspector Clouseau and suddenly spring on her with a blindfold. You may end up with a good kick where the sun don’t shine.