Amir asks:

Dear Sex Sultan, I am really in love with my girlfriend and hope to marry her someday but right now I have to finish my education so it may not be for a few years. The thing is, she is an Iranian girl who wants to stay a virgin until marriage. We do fool around and stuff, and I know she likes me, but after a certain point, she just gets scared and stops everything. I love her and all but this is getting frustrating physically. What do you suggest?

Sex Sultan writes:

This is one of the most common issues with dating Iranian girls, because society teaches them that if they are not virgins until marriage, they are sluts. Your girlfriend seems to be enjoying the physical intimacy so what I would suggest is for you two to practice non-penetrative forms of sex. That way, you both can get your jollies, and she does not have to be consumed by guilt since, technically, she remains a virgin until marriage.

Contrary to popular belief, two people can be sexual without having to exchange bodily fluids, or inserting a penis into a vagina. Examples of nonpenetrative sex include kissing, cuddling and mutual masturbation, licking, massage, frottage (also known as dry humping!), fantasy, dressing up, and simply, touching. There are many advantages to non-penetrative sex because it is free, easy to do, it can enhance the intimacy between couples, and it is the safest way to have sex - there is no risk of pregnancy or HIV/STDs.

Just remember, the key here is communication. You have to explore the sexual boundaries of your girlfriend with her beforehand so that neither of you end up going farther than you planned.

Good luck!

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