Ladan writes:

I'm not all that into sex. Once or twice a month is more than enough. Maybe it's because I've never been able to have an orgasm. My husband, on the other hand, is in the mood every day. I love him dearly and want us to have a mutually satisfying sexual relationship. How can I increase my sex drive?

Sex Sultan writes:

The problem is not quantity, it’s quality. If you are not enjoying the sex, forcing yourself to do it more frequently will do nothing to improve things. Most women require clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm. Incorporating this into sexual activity may be all that is necessary. If your difficulties persist, then self masturbation can help you to understand your body better and what you require for excitement. Educating yourself about sexual stimulation also tends to minimize problems. Unhealthy attitudes taught to you about sex since your early childhood may be preventing you from enjoying this natural activity today. One problem in Middle-Eastern culture is the subject of sex is taboo, and girls are made to feel dirty or sinful if they express any interest in it. This may be why you have not been able to let your inhibitions down long enough to enjoy the experience. You may feel guilty or cheap, which are not natural emotions but taught attitudes. It is up to you to deprogram yourself. There are a lot of books on sex geared specifically towards women. Go hang around at Barnes & Noble one of these afternoons and browse through the shelves. Also, remember, communication with your husband is key. Couples who realize that they must verbally and nonverbally guide their partner in providing them with the stimulation that feels best will undoubtedly experience the most fulfilling sexual experience. It is also important to realize that one cannot force a sexual response, and the harder you try to focus on having an orgasm, the more elusive the achievement of orgasm may become. Please resist the tendency to blame yourself for any perceived shortcomings. The blame game is unnecessary for something that can be solved with a little Tender Love & Care.